Lift Yourself!


I have had a few conversations recently with a friend who has got himself into a situation which isn’t proving positive or good for his heart and soul.

Part of the course of these conversations has involved me trying to bite my tongue and hide my frustration at how little importance he seems to place on his own peace of mind.. and heart.

I guess there’s a part of me wishes that those I care about didn’t go through some of the same kinds of pain I have in my past… but… during one of these conversations he shrugged. “Well, I am my own worst enemy.” Without a second to think, I chimed back “Well… time to be your own best friend then!”

It obviously got me thinking though, because days since I am still mulling it over in my mind. How are we all so happy to simply accept the idea of being our own worst enemies. So often it’s a phrase and feeling which seems so natural, yet surely it’s the wrong way to be. We shouldn’t accept it at all!

Goodness knows I am greatly flawed as a person, and make mistakes in life, but I have reached a stage where I truly do try and be a friend to myself. I realised a while back that although people can advise, and sit and share experience with me, the only one who can actually do anything about my life and choices…is.. me.

So much of the person I am today has been shaped by my past, BUT it’s a constant growing and shaping process and I realised I didn’t have to JUST allow past pain to direct my life and days.

I openly state that I can be short on patience, and often can seem difficult. Sometimes that is simply almost a defence mechanism for me… a way of keeping negative influences at arm’s length. I don’t have to welcome it into my life or days. I have grown to realise I have limitations on my spirit, my heart… and my time, and in the interest of being kind to myself I observe and maintain that balance as best I can.

Choose not to be your own worst enemy… but learn to be the very best friend to yourself that you can. You can lift yourself quicker and easier than anyone else can!

This beautiful outfit is the Sandy set from Lybra out now at Belle, further details at:

The pose is from Gingerfish, and is at TLC at the moment. Further details at:

The picture is taken on Elysion

I got this!

I got this!.jpg

I have been deep in thought…. yet again… and as any of you who read this blog regularly will know, that can tend to lead to times of verbose rambling. I am trying to do less of that this year. I am trying to be somehow quieter, in the quest to seek… less. That may sound strange. I am not going to make myself smaller, or water myself down, but I am learning to share less with those who don’t need to know as much about me.

I feel there’s a deep strength in each of us, I know there is in me. That stronger, spirited side deserves nurturing, and I no longer believe that widely sharing of my inner thoughts and feelings does that. There are things in my life which I can solve for myself, even if in only choosing to look beyond obstacles. I have my tiny group of true friends who bolster my mood with shared fits of giggles, and inappropriate humour. I am blessed to be able to bask in close love and friendship.

What more could I ever ask for? I got this! 🙂




Boots: Gos Tamara; available now at Fameshed

Pose: Gingerfish; Gloss, available now at TLC

Background: Foxcity Starstuck Booth

Hair: Runaway, Joy

jacket: Tetra, Off the shoulder leather jacket

Trousers: Blueberry, Aria stylized pants

Wings: Lassitude & Ennui Seraphim wings, black dipped, rare gacha.