Switch off!

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There are times when all we can do is lean back, take a deep breath… and switch off.

I don’t know if it’s just something I struggle with, or if there are those of you who share this, but it seems like life is a constant bombardment of noise, colour… and demands. I think with the way things are in the world at the moment, it all seems even more of an assault on calmness than usual.

My life has been something of a rollercoaster of late, so it’s become time for a short break. I will be away for a couple of nights… only a couple of nights, but I am really looking forward to a change of scenery, and some quality time with family. After all, my son starts uni in a few weeks, so I am cramming in time with him now, while I can 🙂

A couple of nights away is a good and happy thing. A time to sit and chat, to explore old places, and discover new. It’s much needed. Yet the feeling of excitement has reminded me how much I need to squeeze a time of ‘switching off’ into my everyday life too… or at least each week, be it drawing more, or reading more. I shouldn’t need nights away to achieve this peace… it’s just the simple things really….

It’s the quiet times of rich calmness which soothe my soul and replenish my spirit.

See you in a few days 🙂 ♥
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The outfit I am wearing in this picture is Belle, by LYBRA. I am wearing the new Colene Sandals from Gos, which are exclusive to Uber at the moment. Further details are at:
Colene by Gos

Surrender

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Summer seems to be drawing to a close. In fact… here in the UK, there seems to be a trend for us to have glorious summer days in July, but August seems at times to feel more like Autumn.

It does make those brief glimpses of sunshine even more important though. There are still jobs to do in my garden: dead-heading plants to encourage them to bloom another time before the weather turns; tidying here and there, and they are always much nicer to do when basking in sunshine.

The garden is very busy. I have been fighting what seems like a endless battle with snails and slugs who seem determined to beat me to consuming the vegetables I am growing. I refuse to use poison on them, but had set beer traps… which were working well, until the dog decided he preferred emptying the beer… sighs..

The air is full of the honey-scent of the buddleia bushes I am growing. Most of my plants in my garden were chosen for the fact that pollinators love them. The air is busy with bees of various kinds, and other assorted insects. I didn’t even mind that one of my clumps of nasturtiums was chomped to pieces by caterpillars… I was pleased that the butterflies had been so happy there. I still had plenty of leaves to add to my salads.

For me this time of year is about surrendering to the passing of time. There’s nothing I can do to keep the days from slowly shortening. All I can do is make the most of each moment of sunshine… to store that feeling of warmth in my bones. To collect each happy memory of summer, and store it away to reflect on when the weather turns to winter, and the sun is too weak to pierce the frozen clouds which blanket with their stillness.

 

 
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This outfit is ‘Nala’ from Lybra, and is available now at Fameshed. Further details can be found at https://www.flickr.com/photos/natzukasl/48435229736/in/dateposted/
As always, it features the gorgeous lace textures which LYBRA do so well, but for me, I love the strapped legs to the trousers, with buckle details.

I followed Grace’s suggestion and paired it with the Barbara sandals from Gos: https://www.flickr.com/photos/gospel_voom/48427472907/in/photostream/

Lift Yourself!

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I have had a few conversations recently with a friend who has got himself into a situation which isn’t proving positive or good for his heart and soul.

Part of the course of these conversations has involved me trying to bite my tongue and hide my frustration at how little importance he seems to place on his own peace of mind.. and heart.

I guess there’s a part of me wishes that those I care about didn’t go through some of the same kinds of pain I have in my past… but… during one of these conversations he shrugged. “Well, I am my own worst enemy.” Without a second to think, I chimed back “Well… time to be your own best friend then!”

It obviously got me thinking though, because days since I am still mulling it over in my mind. How are we all so happy to simply accept the idea of being our own worst enemies. So often it’s a phrase and feeling which seems so natural, yet surely it’s the wrong way to be. We shouldn’t accept it at all!

Goodness knows I am greatly flawed as a person, and make mistakes in life, but I have reached a stage where I truly do try and be a friend to myself. I realised a while back that although people can advise, and sit and share experience with me, the only one who can actually do anything about my life and choices…is.. me.

So much of the person I am today has been shaped by my past, BUT it’s a constant growing and shaping process and I realised I didn’t have to JUST allow past pain to direct my life and days.

I openly state that I can be short on patience, and often can seem difficult. Sometimes that is simply almost a defence mechanism for me… a way of keeping negative influences at arm’s length. I don’t have to welcome it into my life or days. I have grown to realise I have limitations on my spirit, my heart… and my time, and in the interest of being kind to myself I observe and maintain that balance as best I can.

Choose not to be your own worst enemy… but learn to be the very best friend to yourself that you can. You can lift yourself quicker and easier than anyone else can!

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This beautiful outfit is the Sandy set from Lybra out now at Belle, further details at: https://www.flickr.com/photos/natzukasl/48474793817/in/dateposted/

The pose is from Gingerfish, and is at TLC at the moment. Further details at: https://www.flickr.com/photos/tracyredangel/48449036301/in/dateposted/

The picture is taken on Elysion

Vintage girl.

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I have always enjoyed the glow of nostalgia which can be found from old objects. From an early age I would marvel at things my grandparents held safe in a simple glass-fronted cabinet. None were worth much in terms of money, but were steeped in sentimental value for them.

When my grandfather died, I was able to take some things to remember him by. I am possibly odd, because I chose gardening and woodwork tools. They were the things he spent most time using, and had taught me not only to use them, but how he used to care for them afterwards. I have to admit to not being as good at cleaning and oiling all of them after use, but I still use them. I have recently been doing a lot of work in my garden, and it’s always his spade, fork and rake that I use. They have lasted perfectly and still remain sharp. It’s hard to work using them, and not feel that he’s somehow watching over my endeavours.

It’s very much caused me to be sentimental in my musings and when I saw this dress from Lybra, I started at first wearing it in black… totally sexy! It’s that combination of a silky-satin fabric with generous lace addition, but with an asymmetric hemline for added cheekiness. I then checked the other colours, and when I tried this peach colour it changed in feeling to something of vintage glamour… an added aspect of lovliness!
Credits:

Dress: LYBRA ( http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Twilight%20Woods/182/166/25 ) ; Courtney, available at Uber ( http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Uber/135/128/27 )

Hair: TRAM ( http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Minnaloushe/180/33/20G1113 )

Taken at: Mesmeric Cove: ( http://maps.secondlife.com/secondlife/Silver%20Lining/51/146/32 )