I have had a few conversations recently with a friend who has got himself into a situation which isn’t proving positive or good for his heart and soul.
Part of the course of these conversations has involved me trying to bite my tongue and hide my frustration at how little importance he seems to place on his own peace of mind.. and heart.
I guess there’s a part of me wishes that those I care about didn’t go through some of the same kinds of pain I have in my past… but… during one of these conversations he shrugged. “Well, I am my own worst enemy.” Without a second to think, I chimed back “Well… time to be your own best friend then!”
It obviously got me thinking though, because days since I am still mulling it over in my mind. How are we all so happy to simply accept the idea of being our own worst enemies. So often it’s a phrase and feeling which seems so natural, yet surely it’s the wrong way to be. We shouldn’t accept it at all!
Goodness knows I am greatly flawed as a person, and make mistakes in life, but I have reached a stage where I truly do try and be a friend to myself. I realised a while back that although people can advise, and sit and share experience with me, the only one who can actually do anything about my life and choices…is.. me.
So much of the person I am today has been shaped by my past, BUT it’s a constant growing and shaping process and I realised I didn’t have to JUST allow past pain to direct my life and days.
I openly state that I can be short on patience, and often can seem difficult. Sometimes that is simply almost a defence mechanism for me… a way of keeping negative influences at arm’s length. I don’t have to welcome it into my life or days. I have grown to realise I have limitations on my spirit, my heart… and my time, and in the interest of being kind to myself I observe and maintain that balance as best I can.
Choose not to be your own worst enemy… but learn to be the very best friend to yourself that you can. You can lift yourself quicker and easier than anyone else can!
This beautiful outfit is the Sandy set from Lybra out now at Belle, further details at: https://www.flickr.com/photos/natzukasl/48474793817/in/dateposted/
The pose is from Gingerfish, and is at TLC at the moment. Further details at: https://www.flickr.com/photos/tracyredangel/48449036301/in/dateposted/
The picture is taken on Elysion