I have been thinking a lot lately about how people walk into, and out of my life. Nobody enters it by accident… I am very sure of that. Some people are lasting blessings who remain close and for many years, but that is not always the case.
I often hear quotes based around the concept that doors close in life to close chapters. Now and then I also see the meme circulating on social media which suggests that if one door closes… it should be opened again, because that is how doors work.
I think my personal perspective on this changes as I age. I do very firmly believe there are some situations (and people) which I very much need to close a psychological door on in order for me to progress, and not carry any residual damage with me. Some doors are nailed shut… not so much as a way of preventing that on the other side from affecting me again, but more to remind myself that I have been that way. That direction holds no more merit for me.
There are of course plenty of doors which other people have barred to me, preventing me from stepping through again. It hasn’t always been an easy thing for me to accept in the past, but I have realised that I both respect their choice to make that decision, and don’t have enough time or energy to waste on friendship with those who don’t want it from me.
I don’t think there’s a problem with closing certain doors and leaving them unlocked though. Some people walk into my life to stay only for a short while, but to teach me something. When that lesson is learned, I can leave the door able to be opened again, but carry on safe in the knowledge that I have grown past walking in that direction again. I shall pause here a moment to smile though, as I know that there are some reading this who know me well enough to snort with laughter due to the fact that there have been times in my life when I have needed to walk the wrong path a few times before I have learned that lesson properly. Bear with me though! 😉
I have realised something though. For me, there are also windows in my journey through life. Perhaps that is in part due to the fact that social media lets us see how people are getting on without having to directly interact with all of them.
Sometimes it is down to my laziness. Life gets in the way and takes all the hours out of the day without letting me natter with as many people as I would like to. There are also those whose friendship has changed in nature, and whereas we were once close, we now rely only on an occasional “Hello”. That said, those people have not ceased to matter to me. After all, windows work both ways and it’s not for me to always be the one to open them and call through to see how all is on the other side.
Recently I have been basking in how lucky I am. I am so very blessed to have a core of people close to me who are nothing short of wonderful. I am so grateful for them and each day, each word, each shared smile is an absolute joy. I have also had a little time catching up with some people that I haven’t actually seen for many years. We have kept in touch with Christmas cards, emails… and of course the glimpse of daily goings on via social media. It’s good to renew old friendships sometimes, because even if the nature of that friendship has changed, it doesn’t make the person any less important.
Windows may limit our contact with others, but they don’t have to close it off completely… nor should they be allowed to!
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